PLOT TWIST!

Sometimes you just have to yell “PLOT TWIST!” and move on.

I hate it when the plans in my head don’t happen in real life. It’s depressing and I spend too much time dwelling on it.

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I had a plot twist moment last month that made me finally realize I can’t manipulate my future into what I think it should be like. I’m exactly where I need to be and I need to make the best of it.

So here are a few things I’m working on to do that…

Get A Vision For My Future Self

I’m not talking about the question, “where do you see yourself in five years.”  I more like the question, “what type of person do you want to be in five years.”  YESSSS!  That’s a question I can answer 🙂

What kind of person do you want to be?  What are the small steps you can take today to make that a reality?   For me, I want to be a well respected public relations professional.  I can learn new skills and brush up on the old ones (SEO, social media advertising, website development, etc.).  I’m going to make a list of what I want to accomplish and then check them off one at a time.

I also made it my goal this week to complete the Career Contessa worksheet focused on career vision  I’ll let you know how that goes…

Slow The &%$# Down!

Obviously this is a skill that I’m really, really, really bad at.  I’m committing myself to slow down and enjoy the season I’m in.  I’ve been so focused on getting to the next goal that I’m not slowing down and seeing the great things happening right now.

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Here’s how I’m doing that…

  • Stop mindlessly scrolling through my phone at night.  What else could I be doing that makes me better?  I’m getting better at putting my phone down and designing.  That makes me happier than wasting my time scrolling social media.  It’s also more productive for my Esty shop 🙂
  • Stop and look at my surroundings.  I look at our beautiful house I thought we would never have and appreciate the great family we’ve created.
  • Take a good look at my husband and children.  They’re growing up so fast.  I want them to know I love them and I’m always here.  That means slowing down and investing in my husband and children.

Thank you God for giving me a big reality check.  Your ways are better than my ways.  I just wish I knew exactly what they were.  In the meantime, I’m going to yell “PLOT TWIST!” and settle down to enjoy this season of my life 🙂

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xo,

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The Pressure of Success

I saw this video on my Facebook feed a few days ago and it’s spot on with my life right now.  My friend, Alan, shared it and I definitely needed to hear it.

Success, in whatever way you view it, is incredibly powerful.  It can rule your life in a way that is unimaginable.  For me, I put a high value of how successful I am by my work.  I know…not a great thing.  I really thought by now I would be incredibly successful with a prestigious career and making an impact on my community.  *Cue hysterical laughter and a few tears*  At 33 years old – I’m no where near as successful as I thought I would be at this point in life.  I thought by thirty I would appear on one of the 30 Successful People Under 30 Years Old lists.  Well…I never made a list.  In fact, every time I see a list like that I cringe.  That should have been me.

On the other side of the coin – I have to reflect on the amazing experiences I’ve had so far in my life.  I was incredibly fortunate to be the first Public Information Officer at the police department for six years. I learned so much in that six years and had many amazing experiences that I will always cherish.  Law enforcement is in my blood and it makes me tick.  To work with officers has been the highlight of my professional life.  I also have an opportunity in my current position to become a more well-rounded public relations professional.  I have learned a lot and am grateful for the skills I have acquired.

During a bad day I often feel like maybe I’ve been as professionally successful as I’m going to be.  That negative mindset can really do a doozy to my day.  Then I remember…I’m only 33.  Even though I don’t feel like it a lot, I’m still young.  The video I saw on Alan’s Facebook feed was a great reminder that you’re never too old to achieve success not matter what you may think.  Everyone has a different timeline to their life.  Life is full of twists and turns and dry seasons.  It’s a hard place to be in but I have to tell myself to keep moving and be the absolute best I can be.  To keep waiting.

I remind myself to focus on the blessings I have.  My happy marriage.  My healthy children.  My beautiful house I thought we never could afford.  Mine and Justin’s health.  So many blessings to focus on instead of those that haven’t come my way yet.  My timeline is still happening.  I just have to be patient.

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You can watch the video here.